Pure Barre

Pure Barre Experience

I've been a member of a gym since the age of 19. I go hard, then fall off the workout wagon at times! I'm like a yo-yo gym go-er! I was excited when Pure Barre opened in Oceanside to try something different and to mix up my usual spin/ weights and cardio routine.  The studio is absolutely beautiful and private. I like that passerby's cannot look in! It's so clean and the staff is warm and welcoming. I didn't feel intimidated at all. 

There was a good mix of woman in the class I took. There were both big and small, young and old. Using light weights and a small ball, Amanda (who was an AMAZING instructor) led us through exercises consisting of small isometric movements. I liked the use of the ball- I felt it aided in focusing on the area we were working on. We also positioned it behind our lower back during the ab portion of the class and it was just the support I needed. 

There were some parts of the class that I found difficult. Not a can't breathe- I'm going to pass out kind of difficult, more of a burning, shaking difficult! Some of the movements were hard for me to perfect but I believe that will come with time and practice. The instructor corrected my form a few times when I couldn't make my body do what my mind was telling it to! A beginners class is highly recommended. 

I was sore for a few days after the class. My ass hurt in places that haven't in all my years of squatting! This is a GOOD thing ladies! My abs were sore, also a very good thing! The old exercise motto, "no pain, no gain" promises greater value rewards for the price of hard or even painful work…Pure Barre delivers!

If you're looking to tone up for summer, Pure Barre is for you. I believe with consistency and determination, you can transform your body practicing Pure Barre techniques. Give it a try. I took one class and I cannot wait to go back again, sore ass and all! 

Visit Pure Barre of Oceanside at 3563 Long Beach Road/ Sands shopping center (516) 766- 0465 and mention Secrets of a Momaholic for 15% off any purchase by 3/31/14. Use coupon code OceansidePB. 

We are Mothers, Hear us Roar!

 

 

Being a mom, I'm constantly reminded of just how strong I have become. Carrying two pregnancies, giving birth, producing milk to nourish my babies. Besides the fascination of what my body has been capable of doing, I'm honestly amazed at how much my strength has magnified since having children. I think this hammer strength is a woman's right of passage upon entering motherhood.

 

Before the kids came along, I made a pact with my husband. I would be on shit duty-he puke. I couldn't see puke, smell it, hear it or think it. If I did, all hell would break loose...can't possibly take care of a vomiting child when you're puking yourself. This weak stomach of mine somehow metamorphosed into steel when I became a mom. It comes with the territory. I am now capable of handling human feces and vomit like no other. I wear this badge honorably because I earned it!

 

Both kids were sick last week-unfortunately simultaneously with me. Although the flu test resulted in a negative, it very much mirrored it. I woke up one night with a fever- freezing, dry mouth, sore throat and headache from hell. I couldn't even lift my head to take a sip of water from my nightstand! I felt like absolute shit. I envisioned myself getting up to take Tylenol in the kitchen while getting an extra blanket from the living room. I laid there for what felt like forever, listening to the beat of my headache, shivering, thinking of all the things that would make me feel better, completely and utterly immobile- until hearing..."mommyyyyy"!!! And... right out of bed I went. Just like that. For myself, I laid there suffering. My son needed me and there wasn't a moments hesitation. Knowing he felt similar to how I did - made me feel worse. After getting him what he needed, I lay cuddled next to him in his twin bed- shivering synchronized, praying to God to transfer his pain to me. If only cuddling could somehow access that transfer, our kids would go unscathed for life- and, we really would be able to do it all!

 

A mother's strength comes in many different forms. I never thought I would make it when both kids stopped napping!  It can be a bouncy house rescue- climbing a blow-up ladder military style with one arm, while carrying a child in another! Sometimes its finding the courage to speak up at school when need be. This animal instinct to protect my young is a strength within me I never knew existed. I have evolved into this Superwoman that can get through just about anything. I always knew I wanted to be a mom...I just didn't know I would feel this amazing being one. Putting their needs, wants and desires first takes a lot of strength...I believe we suddenly possess this strength because Lord knows- we need it!

 

Being a mom is empowering. I have never felt as confident as I do today as Chloe and Max's mom. Sure there are days I want to have a cocktail by 10am- but that strength within me gets me through the day (or at least until 5pm) without it! I brought them into this world and have watched them grow into these amazing little people- because of me. I always second guessed myself and what I was good at before having them. This- I got. This is what I was meant to be. A mommy. And... I couldn't be happier with my title...or my new found mommy muscle.

 

This post is dedicated to my two little loves, Chloe and Max. Thank you both for making me feel so important. The love you both have for me feeds the Superwoman in me to keep me going on those not so fun days. Mommy loves you both more than my heart can hold. You have made my life what I wanted it to be.

 

xoxo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Learning How to Run

 A few months ago, I couldn't run more than 3 minutes without losing my breath, getting shin splints, and a pain in my side. I didn't believe runners that told me that this would subside. I never imagined I would be able to run longer than 5 minutes. I was determined. I tried and tried, pushing myself one minute longer each time I reached my goal. Yesterday, I ran ten minutes straight- the longest I have ever ran without a break! This was success for me! I felt amazing walking out of that gym!

How I started:

I started off real slow- running two minutes and stopping until I was able to catch my breath again. I ran again when I felt the urge to. I read somewhere to run until your tired and walk until your bored and it must have resonated with me!

 

Once I was able to reach the two minute goal without feeling like I was going to die, I added another minute! I repeated this until I made it to 6 minutes. I told a friend how much trouble I was having running longer than the 6 minutes and she told me to lower the speed. I was running at 5.0-5.2 so I lowered it to 4.7 (thanks Doreen!). Her advice helped me so much! I was able to go straight from six minutes to ten.

 

That night, I started with a 5 minute warm-up walk, then ran for ten minutes.

I stopped at ten minutes and walked for another five before running another ten. I finished off with a 5 minute cool down.

 

Tips to take to the gym:

Set small goals for yourself- even if it's a one minute goal.

Stretch first before running.

Bring lots of water.

Make a playlist that will get you ampted!

Remember that this isn't easy & that Rome wasn't built in a day! This takes time!

If I can run- I swear anyone can!

Stretch after your run.

 

Obviously I am still a long work in progress myself. I started this process approximately two months ago. I do not consider myself a runner by any means! I am just someone who has the desire and drive to run. I have always wanted to and just couldn't believe that I was able to. I am a beginner runner myself, trying to inspire those with the same desire as me.

 

My shin splint pain has subsided as well as the pain in my side...damn runners were right! I am also able to breath easier running at a slower pace.

 

My ankles do hurt- but I kinda like it! I reminds me of all the hard work I did.

 

My goal is to be able to run 30 minutes straight.

 

I hope this post gets in your head and gets you on your feet! If you're a mom like me, running helps get the crazy out!

 

Let me know how it goes if you give it a go!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Change

 

As I was going through my past posts, I came across this one and was surprised I never published it. I wrote it at the end of summer when Fall was upon us.

 

Change is always present in our lives. Although it may not always be easy, I believe change is good.

And...it is definitely in the air. For me, my 4 year old daughter starts Kindergarten, my 2 year old son, pre-school. I am looking forward to the routine that comes along with the school year, the leaves turning from green to various shades of reds, oranges and yellows and cooler days for long walks and bike rides with the kids. I'm also looking forward to making some of the changes I have been wanting to make to Secrets of a Momaholic for quite some time now. The few hours I will have to myself  (for the first time in almost 5 years!) while Max is in pre-school will be dedicated to my writing.

I write about what I love. My family, my kids, healthy food for kids. I like writing about topics that may help other moms. I enjoy writing stories that touch people whether it be funny or sentimental. I have written about fitness in past posts and have gotten a great response. Fitness has been a big part of my life, something I have had a love/hate relationship with most of my life. As much as I love it, its a constant struggle...especially since the kids came along. Someone gets sick...out for a week. And I'm sure I don't have to tell you how hard it is to get back in once there is a lapse.

As a mom, I don't do much for myself. Working out is my sanity. Part of me not losing my mind is feeling good...I get that from a great workout. We have to take care of ourselves to take care of our children, right?

When I first started this blog, it was focused on children. Now, as I change and grow with my children, the dynamic of Secrets of a Momaholic will have some changes along the way as well.

I want moms to feel great about themselves. If you aren't into fitness, I hope to inspire you to at least introduce it into your life. A walk can do lots for a stressful day- believe me!

Come November, Secrets of a Momaholic will be a year in the making. I have learned a lot since I started this from nothing. I knew nothing about the business of blogging and I still have so much to learn a year plus later. I hope to keep the readers I have and gain new ones along the way.

Taking a new path can sometimes lead you to where you were always meant to be. Hopefully as I turn over this new leaf, I find my place and my voice and where it is meant to be.
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As I reflect on this post months after writing it, I realized what matters most is staying true to yourself. If I stay true to myself and write about what I love...I'm hoping the rest will follow. Inspiring other moms to lead a healthy lifestyle with their families is something I find very important. I hope to accomplish this goal while growing my blog.

If you have been with me from the beginning, I truly thank you! If you are new, I hope to offer you something that brings you back again and again.

 

Fall in Love...with Nashelle

 

Pure 'Harp' Necklace- Nashelle

 

Even when the kids aren't with me, they are always close to my heart while wearing Nashelle's identity necklace with their initials. This was the necklace that started my obsession with Nashelle's line of handmade designs, created using recycled metals and stones.

 

I have been incorporating pieces little by little to feed my addiction! I now pair my favorite identity necklace with the Pure 'Harp' necklace pictured above. I get so many compliments on this! These pieces transition from summer to fall easily. They are so dainty and can be worn every day either with a maxi in the summer or a blazer in the fall. 

 

 Mostly all pieces are offered in gold fill, silver or brass.

 

 

 

Check out www.nashelle.com and you'll surely fall in love yourself!

 

 

 

 

Pure 'Harp' necklace paired with cupped cushion identity necklace 

10 Ways to Make Your Photos Blogworthy

Picture from layoutsparks

I attended the Adorama Blographer event today and learned some great tips to apply to my blog. Besides the professional pictures I have posted on my site, great pictures is something Secrets of a Momaholic lacks. Mostly all my pictures are shit and I know it! Better photography is something I have wanted to work on to improve upon my blog so this was a huge help. I hope it comes in handy to you as well!


10 Ways to Make Your Photos Blogworthy

1. Empower your images to tell your story
2. Find the best light
3. Be consistent with your style and skill
4. Use aperture to focus on important elements
5. Use shutter speed to dramatically freeze or blur motion
6. Select images that support your style/brand
7. Shoot with skill and edit for impact
8. Lighten up to emphasize detail
9. Train your eye to recognize proper white balance
10. Prepare properly for the web

Amanda Padgett, a photo blogger who was a speaker at the event said something that stood out to me. She said, "do not buy an expensive camera and leave it on automatic". She went on to describe some of the many ways you can manipulate a camera to do amazing things it wouldn't do in automatic. If I didn't attend this event, I probably would have done just that.

I plan on owning a Canon Rebel in my very near future (my anniversary is at the end of the month!!) I will put my tips to work and report on how its going! Hopefully the proof is in the pudding and you'll see it in my photos!

Oh & one more cool thing about the event- I won something!!! I never win anything! And its something awesome for when I do get my camera. A Joby gorillapod focus & ballhead which is a flexible tripod that you can hook up to just about anything to take pictures! Yayyyy me!!!

Mrs. Roper remix!

The warm weather makes me all sorts of crazy- in a good way. It makes me feel so alive! Being a New Yorker, the winter can be draining. The trees are stark, the sky is grey, the streets are barren. And...it's so damn long.

When the warm weather begins and the flowers start to bloom, its like a new beginning for me. I feel refreshed, rejuvenated. This feeling makes me want to be outside as much as possible so I can soak up the warmth while it lasts. Suddenly I find myself at happy hour with my girls, dinners with the hubbie, outdoor excursions with the kiddies- especially the beach.

Of course for all of these outings- one needs the perfect outfit for each! I love summer clothing as much as I love feeling the sun on my face. The colorful and vibrant color palettes reflect just how I'm feeling. I am definitely a risk taker with my attire at times and the summer is no exception- especially when you aren't hiding a great outfit under a heavy jacket.  

Since we are at the beach most days, cover ups are a must have. I came across this Mrs. Roper-esque cover up that I fell in love with and snagged for $17 bucks from $49! So not only am a rockin a Mrs. Roper remix- I got it for a price she would have paid as well!

Come and knock on my door!

I hope to make Mrs. Roper proud...I think she'd love it and want one of her own!

If you suffer cover-up envy like Mrs. Roper, go to Gap and get your own!

Suddenly Lance Armstrong!



Spin Room at Rok Fitness

Much like Weezy, I just moved on up to a deluxe gym! My new gym is so nice it makes me want to be there! I do elliptical in their cardio theater!

I think the change of environment was great for my workout routine- especially since I added spin classes to my regimen. I took a class the first day I joined...nearly keeled over halfway through- but LOVED it once the class was complete! So much so that I went to another the next day- and the day after that as well. I love how fast the class goes and I have no time for my mind to race! I come out drenched which makes me feel like I got my ultimate workout in. Sounds great, right?

Yes- the workout is great. What's not great is that I pulled a muscle in my left calf. This is what happens when one thinks she is suddenly Lance Armstrong! So- 5 classes in and I'm out for a few day...and I MISS it!!! Just when I was making it through the class without cursing myself for taking it!

I'm hoping to be back on Sunday. Can you imagine? Actually hoping to be back by Sunday of all days?? !! I'm excited that I found something that gets me psyched enough to miss it when I cannot do it.

If your caught up in a workout rut- try a new gym. I'm so happy I did!

Hello Crazy. Come here often?

Last Monday, I had the breast biopsy done. I expected it to be very painful but was pleasantly surprised that it wasn't! I am an absolute baby with needles so I wouldn't look at anything going on during the procedure. I closed my eyes, blasted Adelle on my Ipad, and zoned off. I hardly felt the needle or anything else after. I was given instructions not to lift the kids for a few days- probably the hardest part next to waiting for the results. My mom took both kids overnight which made getting the biopsy worth every moment of  anxiety before and after this ordeal!

I rested in bed that entire day...ALONE! It felt amazing. In the back of my mind, I wondered what the outcome would be, and feared the phone call.

Tuesday late in the day, I received the call from the office that everything is OKAY! I was relieved of my menacing thoughts and fears two days early. The office had told me they would call Thursday so I was so thankful to be let off the hook sooner than anticipated. I feel so lucky, like I was given another chance at my life.

From this experience and all of the thoughts of "what if" that came along with it, I re-evaluated myself. During this self evaluation, it dawned upon me how uptight I have become! I have to teach myself how to relax and take life day by day...to not sweat the small stuff- TO RELAX!!!! Becoming a mom has magnified this part of me that has definitely come out in the past from time to time- but by no means defined me like I feel it does now.

Things that people do to relax has the opposite effect on me. Laying on the beach used to be my favorite pastime. Now, I just cant seem to lay there without a racing mind! I used to love taking long, hot baths.  Now- I last a good 4 minutes and those are forced! I try so hard...just to lye there. I cant do it. Its the most unrelaxing place I can find myself- that is beside yoga class. I may as well shrink and be placed inside my own head because that's exactly where I am throughout the entire class- if I last the entire class. I cant stop thinking! I envy those yoga people!

I'm not a sitting mom at the park. I can't relax there either. I follow my kids around....always worried that if I don't- something will happen that I could have prevented.

Even home- I'm never sitting for longer than 3 minutes. There is always something to be done. A meal to be made, a snack to be gotten, a drink to be refilled, a game to be played, a doll whose hair needs to be braided...the list is endless as you moms know. Relaxing just isn't on it. Notice I didn't even throw in the cleaning. That can be a post on its own!

Admitting that I am a little crazy- like any other problem, is the first step in remedying my "situation".  As a mom of a four year old and a two year old, I don't see much success in my future! I'm always thinking...always worrying. I project ahead too much.

Mothering is overwhelming. I  don't want to let being overwhelmed consume me to the point where I'm not enjoying it. I know I have to start taking some me time so I can enjoy the we time more.

The idea of not being well enough to take care of my family or do the things I enjoy to do, scared me. Life is so precious and it takes situations like this to be reminded of that- unfortunately. I want to live life to the fullest and truly enjoy it. You only get one shot...might as well live it up.

This is something I am going to remind myself of when the going gets tough. I want to make a change for myself, for my kids. I have to learn to relax and enjoy this one time deal I am so lucky enough to be living.

Help a sister out- what do you guys do to relax...body & mind?

How to make white sangria

I was so excited to see that my friend Nicole had made a white sangria last Saturday! As soon as the warm weather hits, I switch from red wine- to white. This is a perfect addition to your summer BBQ...or to your summer period!

Nicole's White Sangria!

1 bottle of Reisling Wine

                                                              1 Bottle of Chardonnay

                                                              20 oz. White Grape Juice

                                                              20 oz. Sprite

                                                              1 Bag of Frozen Blackberries

                                                              1 Bag of Frozen Mix Fruit (Strawberries,Mangos & Peaches)

                                                              1 Gala Apple Chopped

                                                              1 Orange ( Cut into small wedges)

Mix all ingredients in a large pitcher...the frozen fruit will act as the ice and keep it cold. Let sit for 4 hours.

Enjoy! 

Mammo Experience- take 2

When the doctor entered the room with the technician, I tensed up waiting to hear his findings. I didn't think it was going to be good when two people walked in. Good news is, the cyst in my left breast hasn't grown in the past six months. The doctor told me that although it appeared to be benign, he wanted to watch it carefully.

The word "appears" brought the alarmist out in me. I have seen too many young woman my age affected by this horrible disease to be okay with waiting six months. "Appearing" to be benign isn't good enough for me and I refuse to sit around and wait for something that can easily be taken care of -grow and turn into something that won't be as easy to treat.

I scheduled an appointment for a biopsy. So far, I've been as pro active about this situation as I can- I'm not stopping now!

The doctor was actually surprised by my request, but also praised my  aggressive decision making. I'm doing this for my family, for my kids, for my grandmother who is watching me from heaven...and, for myself.

Hopefully the biopsy proves the doctor right.

Thank you all for your kind words and support. I will keep the updates coming.

Please be as active in your health as I am. You only get one shot at this crazy thing called life. Take care of it.

My mammogram experience

A little over a year ago, close to my 35th birthday, my gynecologist handed me a script for a mammogram. Besides the realization that I am of age to have this procedure performed, the annotation that came along with being handed that slip of paper scared the shit out of me. My grandmother had breast cancer and survived it. She was diagnosed after the age of 65 which benefits my chances of not getting it. I was anxiety ridden with the unknown. I hate pain (I have no idea how I handled childbirth- TWICE!) and had heard it is in fact painful or from those who like to sugarcoat (eh hem...mom), rather uncomfortable. I was also not happy about the no deodorant thing. So...I have to have my boobs squeezed in a manner that surely is inhuman, arms up, nervous- with no deodorant...in someones face. Wonderful.

You would think someone (surely a woman) would have come up with an alternative way besides a booby torture chamber to check for breast cancer by now. I was hoping the discovery would happen before my appointment.

So, I go for the mammo (since nobody came up with the alternative like I hoped!) ...and, it's painful- not gonna lie...but to get through it- I kept telling myself that breast cancer would be a lot more painful... I knew I had to do it. The technician was sweet and sympathetic to my grimaces. Some men I dated never got as far as she did with my boobs. She handles them to get them in the machine just so, tells me not to move and goes to press the button of hell to release the machine down on my breast. Holy shit mother of god there has to be a better way I'm going to pass out...and just when I'm cursing myself for being born female and think I cannot handle another second, the machine releases my breast. I was put into many odd positions to get the necessary angles- some worse than others.Some not so bad at all. Ready to beg for mercy- I was overjoyed when she said she had gotten enough films. I got dressed, threw on the deodorant I stored in my bag, and left. I was proud of myself for being pro active about my health and thrilled that it was OVER! Or...so I thought.

A week or so later, I get a call from the office. "We need more films. Don't be alarmed...it could be nothing...we see a spot on one of your breasts and we need more films to see what it is". I was devastated...not only by the dreadful idea that everything I feared can be happening...but by the fact that I thought I was done and wasn't. I was so nervous about going for the testing and now had to do it all over again. I was so upset. So, I brave the office once again. I was sweating and shaking until I found out I would only have a sonogram performed this time. I was soooo happy! Whew...a sonogram- I can handle. The female doctor had no bedside manner, definitely no daughters..and may have had her vagina removed at one time another. She was so rough and cold. "turn left, cold gel", " turn right, cold gel"....you'd think she was rolling out pizza dough. She couldn't be sure whether or not the cyst she was seeing had fluid in it or not and wanted me to do another mammo....or in her words "just stick a needle in it". Wow.

I decided to call my gynecologist to get some advice from her. I had been going to her for close to 12 years and she delivered both of my children. I value and trust her opinion and knew she would steer me in the right direction. She advised me to see a well known breast surgeon in the area. I went to see her and was so glad I did. She was so kind and patient and definitely knew her stuff.

I was sent for additional mammos. I know- horrible. She recommended a wonderful place, Complete Woman's Imaging . It was night and day from the first place. I am so happy to say to you- this time the mammo wasn't that bad. The machines were more high tech. The apparatus would come down to meet the position of my breast rather than me standing on my toes and to the left in a crazy position like in the first place. There were two technicians in the room and this made a world of difference in addition to the updated machinery. One handled the fondling, the other the machine. This process worked out so much better because the two woman worked hand in hand together and this benefited my experience so much than the first time with one person.They were like pilot and co-pilot, navigating through my boobs and machine- hand signals and all! I will say it was still uncomfortable (I am my mothers daughter!). Whenever your boobs are being squashed like a pancake - a little discomfort is gonna occur! I also had another sonogram of both breasts that day- THAT DIDN'T HURT!

Right before Thanksgiving, I was told that the cyst was benign but had to be watched. I cried in the office. I cried on the way home. I was so happy that my kids wouldn't have to see their mommy sick. So happy that for now, I will be able to watch them grow. To take them to school, the beach, to the park. Given your health, your life...are the best words you can ever hear someone say to you.



If you are of age and haven't done so...please go schedule a mammogram. Ask friends and family where they go and about their experience. Call your doctor. Get a recommendation of where to go- it can make a huge difference.
                                                                                                                                                                    It happens. Breast cancer effects many young woman. Look at Guiliana Rancic. I may not be an E! news correspondent in the public eye- but even if one of you schedule an appointment- I know I could be helping someone. Early detection can save your life.

I will post the update of today's appointment. Wish me luck and please say a prayer for me. Xoxo.

In a New York state of mind- even in Puerto Rico!

Night 1 in PR
Shirt- Zara
Shorts- Zara

My favorite Sex and the City episode is the one where all the girls pile into a car to drive to a baby shower in Connecticut. All  four woman get into the backseat only to wonder- who the hell knows how to drive?! Being Manhattanites, driving is not necessary for the most part. They get to this shower where everyone is dressed in stepford wife frilly, colorful, floral dresses and each one of them were head to toe in black! They were looked at as though they were the Witches of Eastwick by the stepfords! 

Whenever I take notice of my friends and I in this situation, I cant help but to bring up this episode.

At my godsons recent christening, I wore black, his mother wore black and another close friend also wore black. Of course I had to refer to this episode. It's very New York-esque to wear black. It's chic and cold like the city we live in. The city we love.

In my efforts to break out of the black shell, I refused to buy anything black some years back. I infused color into my wardrobe. I had fun playing around with prints and patterns. I refused to be yet another girl in black. Back in the day- I used to go out with a group of girls 10 deep. We actually referred to black pants as our going out uniform! That is until I decided to break the mold. I was sick of looking like everyone else and feeling like I was a grieving Italian woman that lost her husband. It was nice for a while having a touch of color in my life.
                                                                                                                                                                               For some reason, I found my way back home...to black- mostly grey. I cant keep my hands off anything grey.  I love a crisp white shirt thrown up in the mix too.

Night 2 in PR
Romper- Urban Outfitters

So we get to Puerto Rico and I'm so excited to get dressed. I haven't really shopped in a while before the trip and I missed my favorite pastime like a recovering addict. There's a feeling I get inside when I shop that must be similar to how an addict feels. That rush...the excitement in the belly...not knowing where to look first, not knowing where I'll score next- or if I'll score at all. Its such fun. My outfits mostly consisted of dark components. And I brought booties. To Puerto Rico. Some may have frowned upon it- I embraced my somewhat wintry mix of shorts meets booties!   It was a bit of home mixed with a bit of vacation.

As I entered the bar area of The El San Juan and Casino, I'm greeted by a variety of bright colors that were so perfect and fitting for a place like this. Sexy heels, beautiful dresses- in all different colors and patterns. I attempted the colorblocking look- and don't get me wrong- I LOVE it. I just didn't do it. I stuck to my roots. I don't wish I had strayed nor do I have regrets over my vacation looks...I was reminded of that Sex and the City episode all over again.

As people talked to us- they said (not asked) "your from New York, right". Was it the way I spoke or what I wore that gave it away?

Night 3 in PR
Dress- BCBGeneration

So my last look wasn't black or grey, but it doesn't scream I'm in Puerto Rico either! I think what matters most, is that I was comfortable in what I wore- not as in comfortable shoes, as in comfortable in my own skin. The outfits were me. I didn't look like anyone else- and I'm okay with that. I actually prefer it. I've done the black, done the trendy, done the tight...now, I'm just doing me-and I like it.

How to make frozen Mojitos!

Warning; consuming alcoholic beverages may cause giving fake names, developing accents other than your own, alter egos to come out and adding a senior citizen to your entourage (shout out Brucey!)

Me with my last frozen mojito before going home!

The moment I got to the pool and saw these floating around in the hands of many others, I knew I had to have one. As a mojito lover, this was a dream come true in the hot Puerto Rican sun! From the first sip, the drink had me! So refreshing and tart. I will be making them much stronger than the El San Juan hotel and it will cost me a lot less than $13 a pop! I knew I had to share this recipe upon my arrival home- so here it goes!

Frozen Mojito Recipe

INGREDIENTS:

1 (6 oz.) can of frozen limeade mix
White Rum
Crushed or cubed ice
A fistful of fresh mint
Sparkling water or club soda
Limes and mint leaves for garnish

PROCEDURE:

1. In blender, pour 1 can of frozen limeade mix, 1 can of rum, and then fill blender with ice.
2. Place fresh mint leaves in a bowl and with a muddler, (the back of a spoon or fork will work) gently mash the leaves just enough to release their minty essence.
3. Place muddled mint leaves and 1 can of sparkling water into limeade-rum mixture.
4. Blend, adding ice or water as necessary to create the consistency of frozen slush.
5. Garnish with a lime wedge and a sprig of mint. Serve in wide-mouthed margarita glasses or a plastic cup will do just fine!

Cheers & enjoy my favorite thing I brought home from Puerto Rico- unfortunately, the others couldn't fit in my bag!

Weight loss tips that work- what to add & what to take away

Picture is not me- nor does it reflect my results!!!!

In my post, motivation found...a trip alone, I told you all about my upcoming trip to Puerto Rico- sans mi familia! This trip to paradiso is this Thursday! I knew I had to cut out my bad eating habits and get my ass to the gym!

I am so proud of myself for following through with my plan. The added pressure of going away definitely kicked my plan into gear. I cant believe I was allowing myself to eat what I was eating prior to booking the trip. I also cannot believe how great I feel- you truly are what you eat. I feel like a new person! I made a promise to myself to not return to my old ways upon my return home from the trip.

I didn't do anything crazy. The things I did- anyone can do. I hope to spread some motivation your way by writing this.

What I added:

• Cardio. 30-45 minutes on the elliptical 4-5 days per wk.
• Water. I was not drinking enough before. I drink one or more of the biggest Poland Springs daily.
• Breakfast. Do not skip this meal. It is so important to get your metabolism going early. My meals include;

1. Multi grain cheerios with skim milk.
2. 2 eggs- one whole, one white with one slice of whole grain toast with apple butter spread.
3. 2 hard boiled egg whites with either toast with apple butter or a bowl of multi grain cheerios with skim milk.
4. A vanilla yogurt smoothie with half a banana and strawberries.

• I added greens to my lunches such a salad or asparagus. My favorite is butter lettuce mixed with baby arugula. Trader Joe's has great baby beats that are very filling and satisfying chopped in a salad. They also sell a cilantro dressing that I'm addicted to that makes eating salads desirable!
• Along with the salad, I would add a protein such as grilled chicken or a turkey burger.
• Breaded and baked chicken cutlets for dinner. Whole wheat bread crumbs are now available or you can make your own. Bake cutlets on 350 for 30 minutes. They are really good!
• Fish is a great way to switch things up and add protein.
• Jello with low fat cool whip for a sweet if I needed it- which I did!
• Berries with low fat cool whip is also a great was to satisfy a sweet tooth.

What I took away:

• Whole milk in coffee. I've been adding skim milk or fat free half & half. The skim milk is not good- this I will admit!
• Eating what my kids didn't! This is horrible and unnecessary! I think stopping this did justice on its own! I'm disgusted at myself for consuming so many empty, unnecessary calories this way.
• Starches with dinner. A protein, veggie and salad are equally satisfying. You will not miss the heavy feeling that comes with pasta, rice or potatoes- I assure you.
• Eating sweets EVERYDAY! I didn't realize I was doing this- how crazy is that? Once I put myself on a regimen, I realized what poor food choices I was making for myself.
• If I had toast with breakfast, I would skip it for lunch. If I skipped it at breakfast, I allowed a wrap or 1 slice of toast at lunch. This does not apply with dinner. Try to stay away from breads with dinner. This way of rationalizing your intake is a great way of still eating what you want- within reason. If you want some M&M's- have a mini bag- but, control yourself and have just one. Also- that should be the only exception for the day.
• I stopped saying I will start tomorrow or it doesn't matter if I eat this one thing. It does matter. It does count- the proof is in your ass!

If you don't belong to a gym, get out and walk. Walk around the corner at first. Go further each day. You have to start somewhere. Before you know it- you will be walking further than you ever thought you could and love it!

Don't go food shopping without a list. Planning out your healthy meals by writing a list helps with following through. Going to the grocery store rogue can be dangerous!

Pre -wash & chop fruits and veggies to nosh on. This makes snacking on healthier things much easier. If you have to wash & chop- you will go for something easier & most likely- not a good choice.

Keep fatty snacks out of the house.

I'm still a work in progress. I just cant believe I was sabotaging myself and my own happiness for so long. You have to stop making excuses and go for it. It is SO worth it. Its empowering to finally commit to something I kept putting off for no reason at all.

I will eat my favorite foods- in moderation. I love pizza and could never give it up completely.I just wont have it 3 times a week! I will have a bagel when I get home from vacation. I will also keep reminding myself how great I feel and how I much better I will feel chasing my kids on the beach this summer by keeping up with this lifestyle. If you eat something heavy- you'll feel heavy. If you eat something light- you'll feel lighter. Its that simple.

I kept saying 10 pounds isn't that much to lose- it was my crutch. It is a lot and it feels great off. My clothes fit better and I have more pep in my step!

Kate Moss once said, "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels" and although I'm not much of a fan, I couldn't agree more with her!

Motivation found...a trip alone! Don't be jelly now.

Before having my kids, when I was in my twenties, I took care of myself so well. I worked out 3-4 days per week and ate healthily. I was always a foodie, so I indulged on the weekends- but would always exercise to even it out! When I became pregnant with Chloe when I was 30, I continued to work out well into my second trimester until I began having some problems that put a hold on exercising until after she was born. I nursed both kids so the pregnancy weight came right off- but it also became a crutch of sorts. I allowed myself to eat more. I ate things I wouldn't have eaten before because I knew I wouldn't gain the weight...then I stopped nursing. I have been holding on to 10 extra pounds ever since. I did get back into exercising- somewhat. I get back, and am doing great when suddenly one of the kids get sick or was up all night and it keeps me away. I am not the fitness freak I once was- and I'm okay with that- to some extent. I don't think I'm at the point of no return- but, I have my work cut out for me. It's hard getting back- to be totally devoted to it. With me- there ain't no half steppin- I'm either in, or I'm out. Right now, I'm so in.

My trip to Puerto Rico in 29 days is my main source of motivation. I gave up my pride- twice in the delivery room. I refuse to give it up in a bikini next month!

I have 29 days from today. I started my new regimen as of Monday. Got back to the gym- eating right. I'm upset at myself that it took so long to get motivated to start taking care of myself- when there should have never been a time when I didn't. 

This is a new beginning for me- getting back to me. It's been a while since I did stuff for myself. I'm taking my life back starting with getting back in shape and congratulating my own efforts with a trip to Puerto Rico with one of my closest friends!

I know my body will never look the way it did before having my kids...and I'm okay with that too. Definitely worth the exchange. This trip is giving me the jump start to something I should have been doing all along...getting healthy- first and foremost, not wearing a moo-moo on vacation, the second!

Lacey tunic that I must get my hands on!

Another great H&M find, this lace tunic (they say dress- I say tunic!) is a definite steal at $34.95. This is so versatile. You can wear it with jeans,leggings or tights. You can wear it for lunch, dinner, drinks or a party. I love mixing feminine shirts like this with a pair of black booties to edge it out.

I'm in love with this!

Celebrate the sane way- with Sangria!

Getting through the holidays can be tough. Cleaning, cooking, cleaning again- all while managing the kids and company. I plan on enlisting a little help from Bethenny Frankel this year! Skinnygirl Sangria is the best Sangria I have had...and I've been known to have my share! With all the eating going on, why worry about the added calories of alcohol when your not even skimping on taste. The bottle isn't that big- so grab 2- or 3 if you plan to share! I wasn't much of a fan of the Skinnygirl Margarita- it gave me a really bad headache every time I tried it so I was pleasantly surprised by how amazing the sangria is. Drink up and be merry!! Merry Christmas from my family to yours!

http://familyspice.com/family_spice_recipe.php?recipe_id=110

Perfect tee that covers your butt with leggings!

If your like me, your behind needs to be completely covered when wearing leggings! I can never find a tee that completely covers everything and when i do it ends up shrinking! This pure body tee from Gap Body definitely fits the bill. It is super soft and long enough that even if it shrinks it will still cover everything you want it to. They are on sale for $17.99.

They come in white, grey and black.

Sequin dress suitable for New Years Eve!

I'm gravitating toward sequin these days! Not only is this sequin dress hot, the price tag is equally impressive at $49.99 at H&M. This is a must have for that New Years Eve party or even a night out on the town!